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I need to get away from her I wanna jump off a bridge every day of my life when I'm with her and it's getting to the point to where the love between both of us just doesn't feel like it's enough anymore because it's changing ,it doesn't feel like love anymore
My gf keeps doing this ,over a year ago my father had a stroke and about two months ago he lost his home ,he is temporarily staying with his ex wife because they are old friends but my gf just wants me to leave him and move in with her because last week her family told her she is gonna have to start looking for a place soon because they are moving off the property that her uncle allows them to stay on and rent from him ,he has a trailer that they rent and she wants me to quit my job and find another one quick and move in the house with her so I can help her pay her bills ,I feel used and unappreciated because she doesn't mind what I have to suffer to help her or the fact that I can't just leave my father ,I proposed him moving with us and everything he does clashes with her and the way she lives and she just hates and hates on my father and undermines me everyday ,she is gaslighting me and trying to emotionally and mentally abuse me and talk me into disregarding my family and running to aid in her cause !
What should I do you guys ,I do love her and I been with her for over seven years now and I take things more then seriously but she knows my situation and what is in my shoulders and I can't just move fifteen minutes away from town even tho if I move I will not have a car or transportation,what can I do ,she's is rude to me and treats me like I'm not her man ,about two years ago she cheated on me when I moved in to take care of my father temporarily and she said it's my fault because I didn't give her what she needed ,I feel like I need to leave her but she makes me feel guilty every time and I forgive her every time
Amen
Slander. Pure, hatefulled demonisation of every single creature ever. You my dear are projecting. And your not just a psychologist, you are educated in that field maybe. You are a dynamic creature. This is hypocritical manipulation.
Ok
Does this count if my mother does all of these things or not?
A quick red flag is if you did not ask for anything, day, surprise you with something.And before you can even open it , they start taking the victim roll, get out of that situation. You putting an effort is only confirmation that they already figured out how to control you and it will never get better. The day it gets better is when you stick up for yourself and let them know they're not welcome around you or your life.n And God forbid you have to deal with the same thing. I did where they contact your family behind your back.n I have luckily a great family that sees past that, but some people don't
manipulated, welcome to my world.
This is sooo true!! A manipulator will do small favors for you. BE AWARE you might have to give up your kidney.. They will drain your soul..you must exit quickly.
my daughter…I'm exhausted.
My parents don’t even try to hide it, I didn’t realise till now like the manipulation and things they’ve been doing to me till now. Every ‘helpful’ conversation that’s meant to help me become a stronger person mentally just felt like it weakened me. Every single one of those conversations made me break down in huge amount of tears and then they’d say, ‘but we do all of this because we loved you’. He’d say that he’s at his breaking point, that other parents/families (referencing abusive and alcoholic families) are worse and that he (my dad) could leave us anytime. Leave us so we have to fight for our own but no he’s staying here. He says they selflessly brought me and my brother up, never saying ‘oh I’ve spent two hours on you when I could of had two hours of quality sleep’, but in conversations where I’m apparently doing something wrong ‘I’ve spent a ridiculous amount of money on you, I’ve spent countless hours bringing you up from nothing to something’. They belittle me, then wonder why I am not confident yet despite having a ‘healthy’ environment to grow up. They say I should be thankful that they didn’t put me up for adoption. They say I don’t know value of things and keep saying I’m things I’m not then apologising. Maybe I’m taking things the wrong way and I am thankful that they feed, give me shelter, give me clothes, take me to school but sometimes I feel like something is wrong with the way they talk with me and my brother. For my brother he’s also been through a lot. When he was younger, he wasn’t good at maths, so my dad (being a lover for education) would help him. But every time he got something wrong he’d slap him, so through pain he got better in maths. Everything they do I am thankful, but I’m sort of tired of them constantly contradicting themselves, saying they selflessly grew us up, then mentioning every little thing they do. I am thankful but sometimes I genuinely feel like somethings wrong, but I can’t tell. If I tried having a bit of my own opinion and say it to my dad he’d then immediately shut mine down and say his. I just don’t feel heard sometimes. . If anyone had read all of this thank you ♥︎
There's this girl in her 20s and I met her from pubg mobile
At the very beginning, I thought she was kind but she wasn't. She's been very manipulative with my other 2 best friends named Adrian and Mayi. She started to cursed at them both that they are bitches, and she said that both of those friends were talking shit behind their back to her but clearly mot true at all. Good thing I have never talked to her when I first met her and all along and from the very beginning… she acts very kind and friendly at first when you meet her but later, she would start calling you bad names, lie to you and use you… good thing I got rid of her and blocked that kid my friends list. No one wants to play a video game or talk with someone who's very manipulative…. they are the worst. It's not funny at all. And my friend told her that shes is the one who caused everything to end our friendship so she blocked her ass for good. We have been knowing that girl for almost 4 months and I have NEVER met someone like her like that… I can't imagine or have any idea there could be toxic friendships or friend like her. 😓😓
Very clear explanation – how do you stop it?
They start it and then when you confront them, they say "you took it negatively".
We're all being manipulated, we're even being manipulated by our own minds
This is what my family did to me, im struggle to say no 😢
Could you please give me some tips
Excellent!!!
Yup
My mum is a prime example of this.
I call her a narcissist. She ruined my life.
Oh shit either that or they have fucking dementia
Stop the music when theres speech please.
You will feel it. You feel confused, you feel the need to repeat yourself, even though you know you already explained yourself, nothing feels stable or predictable. Its very important to investigate red flags as they arise. Not everyone is being manipulative, sometimes people are exhausted, triggered, distracted etc but when you investigate red flags, you'll soon see what type of person you're dealing with. They may not admit it, but genuine people will show you in other ways that they're trustworthy
Yep, its basically my parents
The only sign I need is that–
I am dealing with a MANIPULATOR is
…….that they are HUMAN.
All humans MANIPULATE, it is part of the definition of INTELLIGENCE to be able to MANIPULATE their surroundings to make things easier— or more efficient.
We are ALL manipulators,
but not ALL of us have the same degree of facility with nullifieing another's humanity.
Psychopath is lack of emapthy or void of compassiinate awareness.
But to NOT have some empsthy
for beings that are "naturally empathic" (unless TRAUMA blocks its NATURAL development—-)
If you have no empathy for the people who have been "robbed of theirs" by LIFE's circumstances
(they did NOT choose this BLINDNESS, nor did tney bring IT all on themselves, they never asked for "empathic blindness").
If you lack all empathy and compassion for them– it is because you ARE them.
It is universally a bad sign when a person has the sbilty to nullify compassion for another human-being.
The "psychopathy" is the turning of a "blind-eye" to ANY other human LIFE.
We are CONNECTIORS , we are not CONSUMERS.
We are social beings, designed to exist within families— i.e. we are NATURALLY designed to be empathic.
They have a 3rd eye blindness,
would you as angry or defensive if a "sight-impared" person kept stepping on your foot???
Would you accuse them of doing it INTENTIONALLY???
The more one practices "writing off humanity"
…the BETTER they GET at IT.
Do NOT practice things you don't want to get "better" at.
That's my 2 cents on the matter.
You are so beautiful ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your experience with us 👍❤️🙏😊💐💖
Every single women i dated.