The reason we may feel more anxious than we should lies in an unusual place: Self-hatred. If we think of ourselves as ‘bad’, then surely bad things must happen to bad people. One of the ways of calming down is to learn to unpack the origins of our self-suspicion and lay the ground for a more self-loving and compassionate future.
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“The temptation, with dealing with anxiety, is always and invariably to focus on the ostensible cause of our worry: the journey to the airport, the forthcoming speech, the letter one is waiting for, the presentation one has to hand in… But if we proceed more psychologically, we might begin in a different place. With great kindness and no disrespect, we may step past the objective content of anxiety and look instead at something else: how the anxious person feels about themselves…”
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Wow. 5his cult hated being white for some weird reason. There is a New Age Cult called Cleargreen
full of white people claiming to be the only official representatives of Native Toltec people.
They claim to have 'Indian names'.
And they claim to have been given Native authority from 'Native spirits'.
They sell books and are profiting from this.
They claim to have magical powers,
and even have a book call Magical Passes.
And the leaders all committed suicide in Death Valley desert,
but the cult still exist and bookstores still sell their books.
I actually find much better for people to be critical about themselves than to not see a one bad thing about themselves.
But too much is too much and everything ha sits limits.
I haven't learned these limits yet and that's why am stuck
I hope to get better maybe someday…
Why he kinda look like john grace
It's generally that I feel that I've done something unforgivable and it's too late to resolve it. That most people only see the surface me and not what lurks beneath.
Stop cashing in
i hate myself man
I was graped by my cousin brother who manipulated me when i was a child! This ultimately brought me to fear my own gender—male. I’ve always tried changing, and started to become introverted and shy. I appreciate this video, because yes, all we need is love. I cannot bear to have my own girlfriend. How can I protect her when I couldn’t protect myself when I was a child?
00:45 weird because i grew up kinda liking myself,, i didnt have these many self hatred thoughts and feelings towards myself only until after covid and graduation. it has been hell ever since, day in and out
I hate myself so much
I feel like I have a mountain of work to do before I am "worthy". Not even sure what I would be worthy for, I just know I don't feel worthy right now.
For all of what I did, I don't know how I can love myself… 🥲
I hate myself so much. If I could, I would punch myself in the face until I pass away.
Shut up
Total b.s.
So anxiety is really self hatred, and the key to anxiety is to remind yourself to love yourself.
Hating yourself is such a terrible thing…
This is an interesting conversation and is at the root of modern "regressive virtue-signaling," which comes just from that decay of self-esteem and the need to believe–and more importantly, for others to believe–that one is "good" and therefore worthy to exist. It's a sad emotional disturbance of many in the West and leading to its social and national decay. This was dealt with in the novel The Polity of Beasts.
I came across this video as I was searching through YouTube trying to deal with anxiety.
Well my responses are generally 'niether agree or agree' cause I am rather inert to what happens to me. I am ok. I am conscious of the sound my voice. I hate it. I generally prefer to keep quiet. I know I have a very low self-esteem… And "winning" always bring anxiety. The low self-esteem is generally difficult to notice… I guess it has become a habit.
my problem is, I use to love being me untill after my first degree when I found out I had been a terrible person to almost everyone in every school I went from secondary onwards, so I started resenting myself. But after almost 10years of being selfaware and trying to care for people I still do bad to everyon I care for, its as if my only setting is to do bad. I geniunly hate myself because there is no reason to love me, I'm a bad person. This video is for those who only think they are bad, what about someone like me thats actually a bad person?